I remember my first one was a bit difficult. It was the separation of the family-being apart from my kids. To be truthful, I always dug being a Dad far more than a husband. My first ex said to me,"you're a lousy husband, but you're a great dad." I'll take it! Kind of a backhanded compliment, but what the hell. You know, you bust your ass working, trying to do the right thing and the next thing you know... But the beauty of it is, when one door closes, another one opens. I know that is cliche, but you're above ground, my friend, and ANY day above ground is a good one. You still have your kids, your ride and your buds. I wish you the best!

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You can get alot further with a kind word and a gun. than just a kind word

Well my brothers, my divorce was finalized on 1/23. Second marriage for both of us. 'Twas a case of equestrian fever on her part, no children involvd. I was more fucked up emotionally than she was but she had someone to go to (ahem) and I was very much alone.

I'm on my fourth relationship since then, and it appears that this one might be the real deal. Property split was very fair, ekpt all of my 401k, motorcycles (3) and firearms (a lot more than 3).

Would I get married again? I don't know. the current squeeze has the philosphy of "just give away half of your stuff every 5 years or so".

I really like having a woman around the house.

Be Cul, Stay Free O My Brothers

third times a charm dude

I'm killing myself here!! That's what my third ex said just before we got married. "Third time's a charm." Then after that went into the tank, I was living with a chick who told me I had been around all three bases and now I had finally hit home plate. We'll be in court the day I get back from the Smoke Out Spudd, don't lose your sense of humour and keep your eyes open. Women are truly wonderful, and I hear what your saying about liking them around, but sometimes......

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You can get alot further with a kind word and a gun. than just a kind word

i heard that mattel was coming out with a new doll to keep in sinc with the times. she is called divorce barby. she comes with all of kens stuff!

I'm still with my second one and she is a peach but if something happens to us I'll go to the grave a single man. I don't think anyone can top her.

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ALL LIBERALS ARE GUN GRABBERS, IT'S THEIR #1 AGENDA

Geez Jackrocks, I'm getting all warm and fuzzy here. Have you ever tried your hand at greeting cards? That was a bit of fresh air after listening to all us crusty, cynical bastards. You are blessed!

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You can get alot further with a kind word and a gun. than just a kind word

Well I made out alright when the first one fell apart..kept the house, bike, truck and retirement..cost one time cash is all..thought it was pretty fair. Lived with my current OL for a year before makin it legal thought all the bugs would be worked out but guess what...no such luck. Life is strictly "off the rack" there are no custom fits...all depends what you're willing to put up with for the company ya get.

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It's all about the ride.

Oh man, good luck. Hope it isn't too painful. If so, you're in for about three years. Hey, dump the booze and drink tons of water. The shit is actually good for ya.

PJC,

Hope that things are working out for you...personally my divorce (after 21+years and 2 kids) was a frigging nightmare that I wouldn't wish on anyone...the ex included. However, while it may sound cheesy, it DOES get better and at some point that light at the end of the tunnel WON'T BE another frigging freight train! Sound advice...DON'T USE THE KIDS - even if the spouse does...they'll remember that YOU took the high road and didn't. Hang tight and best of luck.

Hey guys
I was just browsing thru the BN and I came across this thread. I know is hard to share in something that ya never been thru. But the truth is that my marriage has been shaky since my younger boy past. But I'm a firm believer in vows, for better or for worst and so on. Now if I was a different type of cat I would had walked a looooong time ago, but I keep working at it and trying to make things work. 35 years is hard to put behind ya. Thank God I have my work, bud's, scoot and my sanity, that is my therapy, it works for me. All though sometimes I feel like splitting, I just keep on pressing forward. In my honest opinion divorce is not a good thing especially when their are children involved. I know that sometimes it's necessary but still, not good. Just wanted to share that with ya, so don't beat me up..."JAZZ"

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